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Great article, thanks for sharing! I find that modern-day psychology puts us in a position where we have to update what it means to control one’s self. Emotions are a natural part of the human experience, and you are right to assume that philosophies such as Stoicism or Gaman can be interpreted as emotional suppression, with all the negative effects mentioned here. However, I think control is more about allowing one’s self to experience emotions and let them pass, without them taking over one’s decision-making. It’s a similar perspective to how, during meditation, you are not encouraged to ‘quiet your mind,’ but rather to allow the thoughts to come and go, until they subside.

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Oct 5, 2023Liked by Rufat Rassulov

This makes me wonder if gaman was a part of samurai's code.

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Aug 29, 2023Liked by Rufat Rassulov

nice to read it!

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This is a great article. I've been practicing Japanese tea ceremony for some years and there is probably no other Japanese practice that will teach you about how much Japanese people value patience than hosting or being a guest at a tea ceremony.

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This was super interesting. Thank you

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